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I've been thinking about how I got to be the person I am today, how challenging my childhood was and how I still, in my opinion, turned out to be a decent person. I am now 38 years old. I discovered super heroes like most children do, watching TV and movies. My earliest memories were the Super-Friends, The old Spider-Man and Marvel cartoons and the Superman movies. Of course I cannot forget the 80's TV shows like Wonder Woman and Incredible Hulk.
I've been thinking about getting this off my mind and could not think of a better place to say than Comicvine. I do not know anybody else who is really in comics.
My parents divorced when I was 4, my little brother was not even 1 yet. My mom moved us to California and we moved in with her friend and her two clhildren, who became my greatest and closest friends until my young adult years. My mother's friend was not the best influence, and my mom quickly became addicted to crystal meth. She met a man who was also a crystal meth user, they later married. He was abusive, both physically and verbally, my mother was too far gone to really notice to protect us. Life became Hell for both my brother and myself.
In the mid-eighties, I was given and old box of comics from from my step-fathers friend, who was also a user. Superman, Batman, Thor and Silver Surfer are some of the books I can remember being in the box. They became my escape from my reality, new heroes to look up to. I started using my weely allowence of two dollars to buy comics every week. I knew they weren't real, but looking back, they were much better role models than the people that surronded me. Comics became an obsession for me. I studied them, got all the "Who's Who of the DC Universe" and the Marvel Handbooks. I would say by the time I got out of middle school, I new just as much about the comic world as the writers themselves.
It was their morals that looked up to, I realize now that I'm all grown up and looking back. Superman always did the right thing, no matter how hard it was to accomplish. Maybe he could have taken the easy way out, just killed his enemies, taken over the planet and make sure people were "good". Who could have stopped him? But morals came first. Doing the right thing.
Spider-Man knew that with Great power came great responsibilies. Someone our governments, religious establishments and corporations could take a lesson from. Not to mention the rest of us.
Sometime in my late teens through my young adult life I let "supers-heroes" fall by the wayside. I discovered smoking pot, drinking and dropping acid were also a lot of fun, made me popular with the cool kids (who I now realize most of these people were not really friends, just party buddies), and also was an escape out of reality.
This went on until about my mid-twenties, I had already grown bored with the acid, but still smoked pot and drank regularly. I do not have a personal problem with people drinking or smoking a doobie once an awhile, but is probably not the best idea for everyday. I was living with my girlfriend at the time (now ex). She knew of my comic book love as a child, and one day she came home with the Secret Wars trade as a gift. I remembered this story. I though it was great! I soon went out and bought the Crisis on Infinite Earths trade, which was my favorite story ever, at the time, from my childhood. The spark was back!!
Soon after me and my girlfriend broke up, within a year I had a new girlfriend. (She is now my wife, we have been together for 10 years and have a daughter who is 7.) Drinking became less important after getting back into comics, something for evenings out or having a beer or two while BBQ-ing in the back yard. Smoking pot slowly went away. I became more focused, excelled in my jobs, got several promotions. Then I had my own family.
I know there were man varibles in my life that shaped the person who that I now am, comics were not the only infuence in my life. I do think these imaginary characters had a huge influence on my morals. Even though these super-heroes were not real, they were real to me as a child. I think they are still real to me, now that I think about it.
My brother turned out well, is married with 4 children. Many of the people I know, including my family members, say he turned out well because I was a good influence on him. I'm not sure I can take credit for that, but if I helped in anyway becoming the wonderful person he is today, then I am proud to have helped. I know he was a positive influence on me and my best friend to this day.
My mother stayed addicted to drugs my whole life until recently, she has been clean for about 4 years. She divorced my step-father when I was 20.
My step-father became addicted to heroin, had many serious health issues. I never saw him again, I would be really suprised if he were still alive.
Aren't we all naked under our close? Who cares if some one is naked? The fact that we care so much about nudity says a lot about ourselves as a society. It's only a big deal to see a naked person because our society says we should hide it. Is it really bad? I question that school of logic, it makes no sense at all. You can blow some ones head of in a comic and show a pair of boobs in another, and every one will be in an uproar about the boobs. Don't all of you people think that killing is worse than people having sex? There should be nothing to be "shocked" about!! I hope I live to see a future where we are a little more open minded and a little bit less sheltered about things that don't really matter. I gotta tell you, if I saw this at 13 years old, I don't think it wouldn't be something I did not have a pretty good understanding of already. If your a parent with a teenager that can't handle an image like Thor naked, and I might add his "private parts" were covered in shadows, then I think it's long over due to sit them down and talk about the birds and the bees.
Sorry 'bout the rant, these kind of conversations kinda get me goin'!!!
Something else that always bothered me. Alternate versions of characters sharing the same page. I think it would be a much greater and more detailed site if each version of Superman, Batman, Spider-Man, etc. had their own page. They may be similar to each other, but they are NOT the same person. Superman of New Earth, Earth-1, The Nail, Earth-2, Earth-15, Earth-18, Earth-21, Earth-22, Eath-30, Earth-32, Earth-33, Earth-40, Earth-49, the pre-crisis Earths, Elseworlds and different versions of the crossover titles, like the superman in the Aliens/Predator books are all different and do not have the same histories. Even though many of these Supermen are very similar te each, others are very different. If were gonna go by the CV "rule" of saying alternate versions of the same character should all be on the same page, then it could be argued that Ultraman, Majestic, Shazam and several others are versions of Superman as well.
Another example, each Vigilante (from the DCU-New Earth) would be better if they each had their own page. Same super-identity, but all different people. I would like to see the character pages be more focused on the individual character, not so much of every person that ever shared that super-identity name. Sure, it could be mentioned on each page that there were others with the same super name, but the focus should be based on that individuals history. I'm sure I'm not alone on this.
Choosing enemies and friends. You can't, for example, choose Despero as an enemy to the JLA. You can only choose another team. This is dumb, you should be able to choose a team or a character as an enemy or a friend.