While Gambit is no boy scout and somewhat of an anti-hero, he's not selfish, he doesn't just think only of himself, he's been a trusted member of the team for decades.
"It shouldn’t be lost on anyone that the first time we encounter Gambit is in Uncanny X-Men (1990) #266-267 when he saves a de-aged, amnesiac Ororo Munroe (aka Storm, aka Lil’ Ro) from the Shadow King’s hounds. The Gambit we meet may be a smoking, drinking, hard-living thief better suited to a dark noir storyline, but he lets that gritty exterior slip just enough to show us the heart of gold underneath. He saves Lil’ Ro who becomes his lifelong friend and, impressed with his skill and heroism, introduces him to the X-Men."
"While his teaching career has varied, possibly one of the best examples of Gambit at his absolute best has been as a supporting character to Laura Kinney. In X-23 (2010) by Marjorie Liu, Gambit volunteers to supervise Laura in her solo adventures away from the X-Men while she is dealing with her trauma. Remy is there to be a non-judgmental, supportive, caring, advice-giving mentor."
"Apologies Jubilee. I guess when you wear the uniform of a hero... hey I guess you sometime got to act the part." (Uncanny X-Men #276)
"I'm here out of a sense of familial duty-- to unsure t'at my people are not involved in a spate of violent robberies I been trackin' from New Orleans" (Web of Spider-Man #113).
Gambit steals the Avenger's Quinjet to get Marrow medical help (Uncanny X-Mne #370).
Gambit is not a hateful person, he's also not the silent brooding anti-hero or the angry bitter mutant who hates humans or everyone. He sees the good in the world, wants to make it better, he doesn't pretend to be something he's not and he's able to admit his past mistakes. He's not going to cry or wallow in self-pity; he's simply going to laugh (Uncanny X-Men #382).
During the invasion of the armies of Khan, an inter-dimensional conqueror, Shaitan uses gems and Gambit's abilities to open a portal. Gambit's plan is to sacrifice himself in order to close the portal (X-Treme X-Men #16).
Under the hold of Cich, Gambit has to play chicken with a semi truck carrying tech that Cich wants for himself. In an attempt to save the lives of the truck drivers, he charges his own motorcycle and charges forward causing a blast in front of the truck, stopping it. Gambit saves the drivers when there about to be shot at (Gambit (2012) #5).
"My moral compass is just fine. I know what's right." (Mr. and Mrs. X #3)
As great as the 90s animated version was, and yes his third person talk was kind of annoying, but it pales in comparison to his 616 comic book counterpart. However voice actor Chris Potter did set the stander on how Gambit's voice and accent should sound, but unfortunately no one but him has been able to capture his voice correctly.
The other animated series and live action version were not very good, his character was reduced to a joke and his appearance look like shit. Taylor Kitsch was an awful Gambit and thankfully, Channing Tatum did not play Gambit... the man hasn't been in one decent film, can't act and gets offended by simply jokes...
I like Gambit and Rogue as a couple (when written correctly) but some of the reasons why they went through so much unnecessary drama and being kept apart was due to a lot of writers either having no idea how to write romance, they think it's nothing but drama and tension or it's them hating one (usually Gambit) and loving the other (fans boys with gigantic egos who picture themselves with Rogue). From the mid 2000s to now it's a long list of shallow talent-less hacks from Rodi, Austen, Morrison, Milligan, Carey, Gage, Remender, Soule, Asmus, David (PAD), Bunn, Zub, Duggan and Howard.
The very idea of a ladies' man just doesn't work in today's PC woke world enough for all the losers with no sense of humor, or they (leftist liberals, SJWs feminist, and progressives) hate the idea of a loving stable couple, marriage, having kids and so on. A lot of Marvel and DC couples have suffered from this. I'm not expecting everyone to love the character, but these so-called complaints some people have with him are just pathetic.
The few times that I've liked Rogue was mostly from the early 90s X-Men comics, X-Men The Animated Series and the early 2000s during X-Treme X-Men and that's it. Throughout the 80s, the mid and late 90s in the comics she was one of most inconsistent written characters on the team, she went from being a villain to a hero in the blink of an eye, then to a tough sassy southern gal and then to a naïve stupid scared little girl who runs away from her problems. At times it seemed as if she had split personality disorder. The mid 2000s and 2010s was even worse, she became a whore, throwing herself at whoever... one had to wonder why Gambit was even wasting his time with her. I want characters to have flaws, to act like human beings but not the point of acting like a blind misguided fool who never learns anything!
As for her fan base... oh god... a lot fall under that whole thing where they think a morally just person like Rogue can somehow be with a psychopathic killer that has a death toll that goes into the hundreds of thousands and this is mostly coming from female fans who are not only hypocrites, but seem to be suffering from a mental illness.
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Or they still think that it's the 90s and Rogue needs to runaway, hide and think things over for the 100th time, as if that's her only character trait... only a few fans that I've seen have got their heads out of there asses and knows that she should not be that stupid, blind, confused after so many decades and knows that she should be with Gambit, the man who's been there for her since day 1 and has loved her ever since.