Please don't delete this as blog spam! Oh wait a minute, that can't happen. Anyway I was reading some old romance issues as I do sometimes this past weekend and came across a gem of a quiz for young women. And by "gem" I mean an anachronistic and slightly misogynistic (at least by today's standards) quiz which takes the form of actual advice for these young women about how they should live their married lives. Just to give a bit of perspective, I am married, and I wouldn't agree with most of the things which are written here. I found it interesting that No had to be the answer for question 14 "Do you consult your mother, an older sister, or a friend when you have a problem?" and for question 18 "Do you insist he telephones you while he is away?" Also weird answers for yes are whether the woman can cook, clean, mend clothes and design a room. Greanted there are still those that believe in traditional roles in marriage, but this was only from a bit over 40 years ago, and so it is interesting to see how marriage norms have changed since then.

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I will delete it! PS I am not even close to ready.

I'm reporting this to the first mod I see. I'm totally ready. I already know how to handle my naggy-ass girlfriend (just nod and say "yeah"). Anything else is childs play.

@AweSam: I am technically the first mod you see

@RazzaTazz: Yeah, that was the joke.

@AweSam: Oh noted, anyway this is a quiz for women, the answers don't apply to you (and would presumably be the opposite in most cases.)

@RazzaTazz:

Oh so this is for women. phew!

@DarkKnightDetective: More like for women from the 1960s

I'm kind of interested in the article, but not interested enough that I wanted to dig through the reasonable questions and find the interesting ones. If I didn't have to squint and I didn't have to skip back and forth between the two pages, I probably would have read the whole thing.

I think I am ready for marriage. I'm twenty-seven and dating a thirty year old. We both had serious relationships long ago, were heartbroken when they ended, and spent many years (me six and her ten) not seriously involved with anyone. We started dating almost a year ago, and we are both amazed at how easy our relationship is. We've only ever had one fight, and it was resolved within an hour without anything mean being said. We are both just nice to each other and forgiving. I guess we've simply been around long enough to know how to deal with the little disappointments that pop up in everyday life. We knew better what the other sex looks for in terms of respect and affection. We both know how to be self-sustaining and responsible for ourselves. We have both learned from the mistakes of our friends and made mental notes not to copy their mistakes. We both have decent careers.

I am extremely glad that I didn't get married while young. I do like this girl, and I half way expect to be married sometime next year, but we do have two issues we know we have to resolve before we take that step. If those were not in the way, we would be ready.

@PsychoKnights: Oh that is nice to hear, most people that would read such a quiz would be trying to define the undefinable, or as your describe that there are a lot of intangibles to make a relationship work which don't have to do with housework.

@RazzaTazz said:

@PsychoKnights: Oh that is nice to hear, most people that would read such a quiz would be trying to define the undefinable, or as your describe that there are a lot of intangibles to make a relationship work which don't have to do with housework.

Many of the questions I read on the quiz were about whether or not you could support yourself or had prepared for all the more mundane aspects of marriage. I think that is reasonable, but I trust that there were some whacho questions in the mix.

Who is your avatar?

@PsychoKnights: Just some picture I found on google images.

That stuff is also important in a marriage but I think it is mostly superficial compared to more fundamental concept

@RazzaTazz said:

Please don't delete this as blog spam! Oh wait a minute, that can't happen.

I wouldn't be so sure...Threads so seem to disapear on CV...Just ignore the notice you are going to get that says I deleted this...it was totally @teoP_ehT 's fault!

Interesting quiz...

@RazzaTazz said:

@PsychoKnights: Just some picture I found on google images.

That stuff is also important in a marriage but I think it is mostly superficial compared to more fundamental concept

What do you find to be the most fundamental concepts of marriage?

@The Poet: I never trusted that guy

@PsychoKnights: It is kind of hard to say, after being married you kind of jut get used to how life is I guess and it doesn't become something that you think about. I think the key is that marriage is also an occupation, it is important to be in love, a marriage won't work without that, but italso requires a lot of hard work on both parts, some of which is purely psychological stuff.

Interesting. What do you mean by working on things psychologically?

I get that a lot of people think the feeling of love will get them through any tough times, yet feelings often come and go. There has to be dedication and willingness to work things out underneath the affection.

I think one of the big things that differs between myself in my current relationship and myself in my past relationship is that I accept my current girlfriend for who she is. With that past one, any time I saw a flaw in her, I tried to fix it or convince her that she was wrong in her view of things. Now, I've realized that you have to accept someone for who they are. If they have a flaw which is a deal breaker, then go your separate ways (before marriage of course. After marriage you don't just walk away even if a big problem arises). I see her flaws, and if she wants to ask my opinion on something, I will gently tell the my opinion, but I don't insist that she view the world exactly as I do, and I don't remind her of her flaws.

@RazzaTazz said:

@The Poet: I never trusted that guy

...elpoep emoS !hsoG

@teoP_ehT: Don't start or I will get the Poet to ban you again

@PsychoKnights: Well that is kind of what I mean, in that people sometimes have to work on themselves and tell themselves they can let something go and jut be happy regardless of the differences. It sounds like you guys have a good base to start on though.

@RazzaTazz said:

@teoP_ehT: Don't start or I will get the Poet to ban you again

elbmurG elbmurG

@teoP_ehT: Is that bolded writing an attempt to show me attitude?

*yltneconni pu skool & sbmuht selddiwT*

@teoP_ehT said:

*yltneconni pu skool & sbmuht selddiwT*

innocent? ha

@teoP_ehT: I'm not buying it.