Would you rather your wife leaves you instantly for another man or cheat on you behind your back?

As long as he got to keep the dog he's good.

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Seriously though. He should file for abandonment so he can get a divorce in his favor.

Well, the situation here meets the standards for a divorce, according to Christianity; if there's no possibility for reconciliation, he should just go ahead and get a divorce, release the baggage, and move forward with his life. But, to this question, if her character is that she's going to cheat, regardless, when it got to the point that action was required, I'd get a divorce; women usually cheat behind your back, but men somehow have the rap as the only ones who cheat.

Depending on the circumstances, I suppose that I'd rather she cheated behind my back, came to the error of her ways, and than told me what she had been doing (e.g. but, likely, I would have already known anyway), with an apology and a promise that she would never do it again, than for her to leave me so that she could live a life of adultery and fornication; that's the type of selfless love that I would have, because I'd want to see her soul saved and see her Heaven bound once again.

I wouldn't want to stay with that kind of woman. So the sooner she leaves me the better.

@dshipp17:

There is a book series called "Boundaries" that you ought to read. It will save you from becoming a martyr when God hasn't called you to become a martyr.

Leaves me instantly for another man.

I wouldn't get married in the first place.

I wouldn’t want either of those things to happen to me.

I’ve been following Kreesha for quite some time on IG, and I knew she was married, but I didn’t even know that she left him like that. But it seems like she wasn’t happy with the marriage or didn’t actually want to be married. Either that, or maybe something happened between them. Who knows? She likely had dreams and aspirations, and probably felt that being married was holding her back. Whether or not she’s getting it on with Nick is something else, but it obvious that he propelled her career to another level, which is something that her husband wasn’t doing for her. There may not have been a benefit to marrying Quinton, who is an unknown dude. She wanted to more out of life, and because Quinton couldn’t help with that, she bounced. She likely did him a favor, although it sucks. Just my theory on the matter.

Let’s be real here. There is more to marriage than love (it’s more financial than anything), and it takes way more than love to keep it together. I know a lot of people don’t want to hear that shit. But it’s the truth. There has to be a mutual benefit for both parties involved. There are men who do the same thing, too. They’ll be with the same woman for years until their careers are propelled to new heights. Unless their wife or partner are on the same wave, they take off and look for someone who is. There has to be growth for both people in any relationship. Otherwise, one can’t expect things not to fall apart, if they other person chooses to remain stagnant.

On the flip side, I do believe that people should do and accomplish any and everything they want in life before deciding to settle down with someone else. Even after that, there should still be growth all across the board. Work must be done. Period. You don’t just get married and chill. That’s lame.

I wouldn’t want neither to happen to me, and what she did was completely irresponsible and wrong as an adult, let alone a woman. But if I had to choose, I would rather her leave me for another man than cheat behind my back. My reasoning is, because at least then she would be more honest and expressive that she doesn’t love me rather than her sleeping with somebody else behind my only to come home and lie and says she loves me (I never got how people could do that). Plus, she would be doing me a favor and saving me a lot of trouble by showing who doesn’t belong in my life.

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I would rather have her cheat on me behind my back then have her instantly leave me for another guy. This is because if she cheats on me behind my back, she is still with me and we are still a couple but she is a cheater and it's still possible for us to try and work the relationship out together and make it better if I've caught her cheating. If she instantly leaves for another guy then there's less chance of us making the relationship work out.

Besides I don't mind being a doormat...letting her cheat on me all the time...as long as she still comes back to me and doesn't get STDs from the guys she is cheating with. But if she leaves instantly for another guy then there's a greater likelihood that she will never get back to me so that's a worse scenario.

Have had both happen to me, and I'd rather they leave. If they're seeing someone else then something fundamental in our relationship is broken, best we end it. Plus if they can show such a lack of respect that they could cheat, good riddance I don't want them. Go to your hoe, we're done.

No thanks, I'd rather be alone.

Don't waste my time.

You really are something.

Oh, I know :-)

That bitch ain't leaving shit! I'm out!

I would be the dude that the other dude's wife is cheating with.

Ya'll be raising my kids.

I am never getting married but I'd rather she cheat behind my back so I can leave her and humiliate her muahahaha.

Have the self-respect to tell them and leave.

@thekillerklok: This^ .

@static_shock: But , she could have informed him of her leave and asked for a divorce . What she did was unethical and completely broke the man who loved her .

Pretty obvious choice. Being cheated on without your knowledge just makes you look dumb and is basically a false reality. I’d rather be on the same page and know for sure.

@noone1996 said:

Would rather have her leave me for another man than cheat behind my back, I'll explain why later.

He seems to be into it, tbh

@lan_fan: The guy sounds desperate as hell like he just wants someone to be with him, evening they're cheating, so he won't be lonely.

If u are a DJ & get married in LA to a hot chick, then u are a cuck. Ofc wifey cheats on u. She'll probably blame u for it, she'll say u are too demanding & restrictive for her needs.

@sentryvoid7: What does being a dj have to do with it?

I'd rather get a divorce and relieve myself of that skank.

@dernman: That's the dj life man. Become a dj, move to LA, marry a hot woman, become a cuck. It's a natural law. Shit be like gravity what comes up most come dj, know what I am saying?

@wakeupsid: it happens often... shoulda coulda woulda lol

This is why I’m single

@kingofbbc: Good riddance to bad garbage. All three of them are rubbish and it's out of place for you to extrapolate such a situation on to me.

@alavanka: "I would be the dude that the other dude's wife is cheating with."

I thought you were a girl.

I still think you're a girl.

How dare you assume my gender?

I'd much rather be left than lied to.

So? We are all waiting for the rest of your story.

@buckwheat: It isn't really a story, I would rather have someone tell me to my face rather than keep it hidden, because you can get a sense that they may have felt guilty or might have felt remorse.

I think people have summed it up on the internet, "she was sorry for being caught not for cheating but for being caught."

How do even get that thicc???

So get cucked once or get cucked continuously?

Imagine being married in 2020 LOL

I’d rather her leave me, because it for one it wouldn’t be a waste of my time and two the sooner I know she wants to leave for another man the sooner I know she wasn’t my wife in the first place.

If you'd rather your wife cheat on you, then you're a spineless dude.

Cheating from a woman is literally the worst form of betrayal, its basically treason in a relationship. Historically men were legally allowed to kill women for this as a crime of passion defense, and there's a reason for that.

I guess I’ll go with the cheating. Uncertainty is very bad.

Though I may be biased from personal experiences. I’m only able to draw from my personal memories of how I’ve felt about things.

What I mean: In the past I “lost” my only friend and they didn’t really tell me so I didn’t know if I had any friends or whether or not it was permanent, and I never really understand why.

Idk.

both scenarios are more or the less the same. even if she's "leaving" she was basically cheating via monkey branching but without the physical intimacy of the affair partner. either way liars, cheaters, traitors, backstabbers deserve all the karma that comes their way

I'd just want to break up with the person ASAP