@dernman: While you can meet people anywhere I retain strongly that you are much more likely to meet somebody at social events where actually meeting someone is on said person's mind. Also I get the feeling that you are reminiscing of the good old days.
Yet they still met people in other places. Not the good old days it still happens today despite some trying to ruin it for everyone my framing it into something bad.
If it did ever come to just being "the good old days"which it isn't. Then that in itself would be a problem. Not that people approaching each other but that society doesn't allow it.
Times and social conventions change. its quite clear now that many women these days don't really like random men trying to hit on them in random settings (which is what the advert was referring too).
Yes and not for the better. It's not quite clear. Why because you can't speak for everyone everywhere. You and the add are trying to speak for everyone and paint people that don't follow your guideline as bad. That makes them the bad guy and problematic. THis idea that you're trying to spreed is a negative and pushing people to be more closed off anti social. It's not just for romantic interactions either.
Women being hit on by guys on the street is more of a trope/cliché than meeting someone at the grocery .
So I have no idea why you are so insistent on "maybe that girl might actually want to talk to him". I don't think its because we've been taught to be more closed off.
I don't know why you get the idea that everyone is the same as you. Nor do I get why you think everyone live like that because you do. I've seen it and experienced it. Maybe you haven't because you don't have enough varied life experience with different people. yes we have been taught to be closed off. Just saying it's wrong to approach someone shows that you're are closed off to someone approaching you.
Otherwise guys would be friendly to everybody on the street, not just people they found attractive.
Shockingly there are places that they are. Even if they weren't like that to everyone it wouldn't matter. It's not an offense to approach someone.
I think its been the norm for women to be more accepting of romantic gestures even from people they don't nessercarily like and this interaction has been conflated with the crux of "basic interaction" that's been destroyed by evil dating sites and feminism.
You're just supporting my argument here about being closed off. You don't go from one bad aspect one bad to another. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. You don't claim that something that is perfectly fine and normal into something that is bad. It's those people who are trying to frame it like that which are problematic. Fine you don't like someone approaching you because you're closed off but it doesn't make the person who doing it doing something wrong.
And while dating sites have a number of issues and human interaction is important they leverage a lot more power on women because you can actually choose who you want to interact with no awkwardness and you can choose the time and place where you want to interact. Because if it all goes well you will interact eventually anyway. Time and place are important
Horsehit. Dating sites have their own share of problems. I've heard enough horror stories from woman and men coming from them.
I don't recommend or not recommend those sites but no one should close themselves off to just one method.
(Edit: I have more female friends then male. In fact I've always had more females in general than males in my life. Probably because I was the only male in a multi generational female run household growing up. So I've often taken the role of confidant.)
You are assuming that The Woman may be receptive to the guy in question and she may be, but she might simply be busy.
You don't read do you? Go back. In fact I explained it doesn't work that way. You don't assume anything. You only know after you initiate contact.
You introduce yourself an she'll tell you. Like I used in the example the person can say she's busy if she is or even if she's just not interested. That's how it works. Don't assume either way. You're basically trying to decide and choose for everyone. Also stop trying to pretend it's only a one way street. Unless you're an incel with incel friends you'll have experienced woman coming up to you or unless you live in a place where they suppress woman to think they can't be forward.
Also they are so many wholesome ways to promote interaction in the community. Host a Movie night and invite neighbours. Throw a Barbeque. Organize a feeding station for the homeless IDK. You'll engage with far more people and more positively than running up on any broad you think looks good that's walking down the street.
Yes but just because there are alternative it it doesn't mean another one is wrong. You're trying to turn something into a negative that just plain isn't. Which again is problematic not to mention sad. If the world ever came to that I hope people would wake from that nightmare and try to fix it.