You should try your best to not be homophobic. For a few reasons, including your own wellbeing.
Firstly, what if you are gay? Being gay isn't a choice, and being homophobic does rule out the possibility of being gay. You basically create a situation which invites internal hatred towards yourself, and you could end up bitter, resentful, guilt ridden, depressed. Lots of internal struggles and conflict. Its a tough sad situation for people to be in. Then again since CV is international, I suppose it depends on the particular laws in your country.
Assuming you aren't in a place where your life would be in danger though, secondly... what if a close friend or family member is gay? Would you prefer they feel like they have to stay in the closet scared you would think less of them if they shared their truth with you? Would you think less of them? Being homophobic can also be a negative for your future interactions and your potential to interact and befriend a larger group of people, not just gay people directly, but people who are supportive of gay people as well. What if you find a person of the gender you are attracted to and find out they are bi or pan? Which is different to being gay, but if you are homophobic, well, it'd still probably have a negative effect on them.
Also no matter how much someone could say something like "but I am definitely not gay, I will never have gay friends or family, I would never like a bi/pan/gay person anyway" it wouldn't be the first time people have said that but then gone on to be very very wrong.
As for whether or not you are a bad person? Ah well thats complicated, none of us will know you well enough to tell, maybe you are like me, and your family was homophobic, and it can be tough to shake off ideas when they come from family, even if they are wrong/misunderstood. Feelings of discomfort are common in a lot of different contexts too. Not necessarily the same as hatred or not necessarily a bad thing. I feel discomfort in large groups of people, that doesn't mean I dislike all the people in that large group. So I guess its the specific reason you feel uncomfortable. Is it if a gay person hits on you? Thats a sympathetic situation, but not really discomfort with gay people, since people of any orientation can feel such discomfort when someone they aren't attracted to does that, even if the person is the gender of the orientation they like.
I don't really think you should get stuck on whether that makes you a bad person, just try and think if maybe you can be kinder and nicer to people in general and include gay people with that.
Are people being forced... uh depends what you mean. Societies tend to flourish when they ensure the protection, safety and give equity, opportunity and give Rights to its people, but especially minorities who might otherwise be at risk. Generally and broadly speaking, the countries that doing right by their LGBQT folk, are doing really well in other areas, everyone else is to be clear, not just LGBQT people. Socio economic mobility, happiness measurements, freedom of press, personal freedoms, a lot of areas and fields that are valued by people. Countries where homosexuality is illegal, don't do so well. Of course this isn't because some countries "force homosexuality" and others don't, its a naturally occurring effect alongside other changes and goals, that some like to claim is forceful. Chances are, there are ways you benefit which are the result of some structure that exists to benefit you, like a safety net of sorts. Is that forced? Is extending it to gay people forced?
Anyway, even if you do feel a bit uncomfortable around gay people, its good you are asking questions. You are open to the idea that you could change, and maybe with time and new experiences your perspective will change. Good luck OP!
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