How to deal with Self-righteous people?

I had a vegan friend who literally cut me off from talking to her simply because I told her i didn't agree that "Milk is rocket fuel for cancer". I told her I respected her beliefs but I just didn't agree with that or the vegan lifestyle. She got all weird and told me that it was "facts" and when I tried to tell her I have an opinion of my own and she has her own opinion, she only saw her opinion as dead-on facts.

whether it's true or not, she got really self-righteous and when she doesn't agree with someone's lifestyle she insists her views on them to the extreme as if she is an all knowing human being.

anyways we aren't friends anymore because I finally stood up for myself and told her how I felt. I kinda told her she was a "fascist" because she pressed her views on me and wouldn't drop the subject until I agreed (i wasn't even arguing with her on the topic. I was simply saying I respected her view, although i just disagreed and i simply wanted to drop the subject). She was even too self-righteous to "agree to disagree". I literally asked if we can just agree to disagree but she got all offended because she couldn't do that with a "fact". She thinks she is helping people by spreading her views (Milk is rocket fuel for cancer) but i feel like if someone disagrees then she should just drop it, but she didn't.

How do I deal with people who act like this? I'm tired of it, what do i do if it happens with someone else in the future?

thanks in advance for the advice :)

You just can't argue with or change some people. Next time just ignore them if they are as serious as this woman was, just be polite.

Or conform and agree to everything they say. Up to you.

Ignore them.

Or, if that doesn't work out, kill them.

I believe your story. Most vegans are very closed-minded people. As for how to deal with the self-righteous, just go ahead and agree with them (sarcastically, of course). Make sure they can detect your sarcasm. It'll piss them off to the point of crying, and you won't have to waste time forming an argument of your own. Opposing views will fall on deaf ears anyway.

tell them you don't own my body and i do anything i want to it.

@jayc1324: the thing was i wasn't trying to argue, i politely told her i respected her views but i just disagree. I even told her i didn't want to argue but she started one anyways. I really hate that this happened because she was a close friend and she ended it because i didn't accept her "truth" and that i wasn't listening to her "teachings". She thinks she is better because she is older, i guess. I'm 18 and she is 26.

Be careful with this one. It might create a paradox and cause them to explode.

Why were you friends with her in the first place?

Whenever I meet self-righteous people, I just pull out my katana and decapitate them. But you know, that's just me.

Just don't bring it up.

Source: A Vegetarian with a lot of self righteous meat eating friends.

@negativecreep94: The only obvious choice is to battle them until you are no longer friends. Any friend that wants you as their yes-man drone is no friend of yours.

Sneak cow milk into her soy milk and laugh to yourself about it.

@erik: I see that now and the reason i was friends with her is that she was there for me when i needed help. We started to help each other but then she started to show her true colors and its hard to avoid the subject because she would bring it up frequently. She even bugs her husband with her ways so much to the point that he gets distant sometimes. She doesn't even see what she is doing to him instead she thinks he is the one being "weird" about things.

Say b*tch forget the milk or ill slap you with a burger

@joygirl: And that's enough from Joy-Joy today. Back to the padded room you go.

Spear them.

Steal their ball of yarn

Stay away from those topics with those type of people or stay away from them completely. She shouldn't be pushing her beliefs on you like that and so aggressively. It seems like you reacted pretty good, but some people can't see that.

Ignore them.

The topic of food came up when I told her i gained 2 pounds. I am a recovering anorexic. My girlfriend tried to talk to her but she was being all self-righteous to her also. It's like she literally believes that her views are not opinions but "fact" as she always says.

1. Don't talk to vegans; they're usually highly pretensions and smug.

2. When you deal with these people just say things like, "nice, sure, cool, radical". When you say this, keep a big smug smile on your face, it angers them to no belief.

You don't

You should Scott Tenorman her.

Ignore them and walk away.

This works to no end, it's the greatest thing ever when they keep trying to convince you but you just say crap like that.

@dark_vengeance_: It is.

I will keep this in mind for next time. Thanks guys!

"because she pressed her views on me and wouldn't drop the subject until I agreed (i wasn't even arguing with her on the topic. I was simply saying I respected her view, although i just disagreed and i simply wanted to drop the subject). She was even too self-righteous to "agree to disagree". I literally asked if we can just agree to disagree but she got all offended because she couldn't do that with a "fact". She thinks she is helping people by spreading her views"

This sounds like every religious person arguing with an atheist, and every atheist arguing with a religious person.

Tell them they are wrong and walk away.

Be like "k".

@wolverine08: