Do you want to know your future wife's past?

Past behavior is an indication of future behavior.

A lot of jobs these days do background checks for a reason and people should too. Always vet new people whether friends, employees, salespeople, partners etc unless you want to be backstabbed, robbed, scammed, cheated on etc.

In your scenario, her refusal to be honest with you proves she has something to hide and therefore can not be trusted and trust needs to be earned, not given.

Of course, but not in relation to virginity and sex.

I can't get to know her enough to want to marry her without learning a thing or two about her past. That's just part of the natural process of forming a relationship. You have to have at least some idea who you'd be marrying, after all. Whether or not she's a virgin though, would be one of the least important questions for me. I certainly wouldn't expect her to be one, given that I don't plan on marrying for quite some time.

Why would I want to marry a woman whose past is shrouded in mystery? I might not even know her well enough to marry her if I didn't know her past.

Absolutely. If I am with a Woman I would need to know about her Past. I mean this is something that has to come up in Conversation as you are getting to know one another.

It is a natural part of relationship building to share your past with your partner.

A question to the guys who said yes:

Would you judge your future wife negatively if among the things she disclosed was her high body count? Girls worry that guys might think negatively of her if her body count is high.

@noobsnowman: I cant speak for others, but my wife and I traded numbers and honestly I was more worried about what she was going to say to mine than what hers was.

As long as she isn't bringing a child or STD to the equation I don't think her number is really relevant, and I certainly don't have any room to judge.

@noobsnowman: High as in triple digits? No guy in his right mind would want to see his mother or daughter have a high body count, I don't see why a wife would be any different.

High body count isn't something to be viewed positively regardless of what current societal culture tells us. There are behavioral, mental and psychological issues which come with that. Don't ever let others gaslight or blackmail you emotionally for how you feel and what you know.

If you don't care, then do what's best for you but never be surprised when extra baggage is brought to the table.

Triple digits lol

Unless you want it to end up like Audition, you probably should.