I joined this site a few years ago, but never really got involved with it in any way. Part of the problem with that was because I was in a long term relationship at the time, and my girlfriend was not so keen that I read comics (she thought they were immature and didn't want to date a "comic nerd"), so I gave them up in order to keep her happy. This meant that I did not have as much to contribute to this site as I was not really technically a comic fan at the time so I more or less joined and then forgot about it. Recently after a six year relationship (going back all the way to high school - ugh) we have gone our separate ways over irreconcilable differences. It is strange to be in a couple, which by itself has its own identity and then to become a single person again as that gives a new sense of identity. The good and the bad goes along with this (and there is a fair amount of bad, like having to organize friends to check out a new restaurant or going to a movie instead of just having her with me) but in terms of rediscovering my identity I think it is a pretty amazing thing. It is like having a new chance to discover everything in life which can make me happy. I guess most people can guess because of my presence here now, that one of the things which I have rediscovered is the medium of comic books. So bear with me, I may seem uninformed at times (or misinformed) but I am going to try to get myself back to do the things that I love, and maybe find out who I am again.
Hey, at least you were reading at some point. I'm an actual noob. Haha. But condolences on the breakup, and welcome to your new life.
I doubt you want the uninformed opinion of a stranger, but I think it's for the best not to be with someone who judges things you love or makes you deny part of yourself. This is a powerful medium. I have no doubt that with time you'll find that comics have played a part in getting you back on your feet again -- as will the people here, if you choose to let them.
I would never get rid of things that i like for a girl. If who you are isn't enough for that person then screw them.
You'd be amazed what love can make you sacrifice.
Anyway, welcome (back) to the fold! Sorry to hear about your situation but hopefully now you will be able to find someone who you can share your interests with, or who encourages you to be who you are. Having to give things up or hide things is definitely not fun, so at least you can live a little freer now.
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