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@cable_Extreme: gender and gender idnetity are one in the same. The differnece you are looking for is sex, which is just the physical characterstics.

And once again I said i know that. I know trans women who have been attacked also for just telling their pattner striaght up. I know a trnas women who was assualted because a stranger who was attracted to them, sexually assualted them who was then physically assualted. I know about the anger of cis people and i know the violence that you can bring. Many trans people do. Thats why its frightening to come out, its terrfying and anxiety inducing because it is your life on the line be it the start of a relationship, in the middle, or just because the person thinks your attractive and feels "decieved" when all you were doing was walking by. Cis people are angry and violent towards us already, and we know that. And we are scared.

@Wardemon32: but they are still men who have varied life experiences, but those life experiencea don't detract them fro being men. Although at one point in our society it did.

Also once again the term is cisgender for people who identify as the gender assigned to them at birth. And I also know of trans women and cis woemen whobare n fact in relationships with eachother and share these beliefs, and are in fact happy. T

@Wardemon32:

You're right a cisgender man and a transgender man are different. As are a black man and a white man. But they are all still men. They have differences but regardless of those differences they are still men.

I am in a healthy relationship. With another lesbian trans woman.

@Franchise1590: you are using a classic silencing technique by flipping the power dynamica here.

Once again you show a lack of nderstanding how gender works. Since gender is a social construct you can't naturally be born one. The only thing you are physically born with our varying sex characteristics. But even including those various cultures across time have interpreted them differently. Wether it be two-spirits in various native americna culture, the six differnet genders in ancient israel, the Fa'fafinne in polynesia or the Hijiara in india. All of these show examples of how gender is a socially constructed seperate from genetalia/sex.

I am not being ignoran nor am I being disrespectful for standing up for my identity and those in m community to be seen as who they are authethically are. And I will put a trans person life over somebodies feeling. Because once again trans women are often attacked and killed when we come out to potential partners. And the risk we face makes coming out an extremely tough choice.

@Erik: But you see thats an injustice only trans people are given in this world. My gender idnetity is up for debate but a cis person's isn't? Or to rephrase it, a cis person has the privelage to not have their gender identity questioned.

Or is it okay for me to debate anybody's gender here as well? Can I start doing that?

@Wardemon32: does using the word in front of black men? Or using white woman? Change anything abou the persons gender identity. No. They are still a woman and a man. But those are types of women and men. They are called adjgectives and they modify aa noun. But the noun is still the noun. Trans and cis people are both men and woman . I am a woman just as much as I am trans, and just as much as I am latina, just as muvh as i am mixed race. Those are all parts of identity. I am a woman, i am a latina woman, i am a mixed raced woman, and I am a lesbian woman. And I am a mixed race, latina, lesbian, trans woman. And none of those adjectives stop me from being a woman.

@Wardemon32: Gender is in the mind. I would still be a women wether or not i've done anything to my body. Because gender is infact a social construct. And i deserve a kick in the head because I know who I am and understand my identity?

And guess what, it is my identit taht is who I AM. If identities can be so easily mallable to other peoples views than i guess I can start seeing you or anybody else as anothe rgender?

Edit: WE AREN'T tricking and we arent deceiving anybody. We are literally just trying to survive. Also like i said. These hypothethcials are relaly gross and tend to pas son the horrible and harmful sterotype. We aren't trying to trick anybody. We are trying to live our own authethic lives. The truth of our own lives. And the majority of the time we do tell partners and the only reason we don't is because its scary okay, because you don't know if that peroan is gonna move you to the alleyway and start beating you afterwards. If you get hurt because somebody didnt tell you they were trans, but sorry a human life is more important.

@Franchise1590:

Well i personally don't date straight men. As I'm a lesbian.

But you are highly confused on two things.

Transgender is not a sexuality. It's a term based around gender identity a seperate construct altogether.

Secondly their is no disrespect on sexuality here. Unless they are disrespectin my gender identity. Let me explain

Trans women are in fact women

Trans men are in fact men

Cis men are men

Cis women are women

For those who don't know cis/cisgender are people who identify as the gender assigned to them a birth.

Straight men like women

Striaght women like men

Gay men like men

Lesbians like women

Bisexuals like all genders.

So lets say a straight cis man dates a bi trans women. That is a heterosexual relationship because their is a man and a woman involved.

A bi cis women dating a straight trans man is also a heterosexual relationship.

Their is no disrespect to a persons identity being done.

The only way your sexuality would be disrespected if is you start invalidatiing somebody elses gender identity.

@Wardemon32: So is living and being murdered.

The thing is i have never identified truely as male. SoI didn't used to be anything. Who I am is who I've always been.