• 75 results
  • 1
  • 2
Avatar image for laflux
#1 Edited by laflux (23256 posts) - - Show Bio

Well, technically, its a LGBT event in a nightclub I'm familiar with. Barring any unfortunate events (feeling depressed that I did badly in my exams). Even though I'm heterosexual, I'm still going

1. I was invited

2. Its free entry

3. I have a card to the said Club which gets me discounts on drinks.

4. I don't feel uncomfortable about it.

So Viners, what do I expect?

Should I dress even better than usual?

Most importantly- If a Gay/Bi person hits on me- how do I tell, and how do I handle it. And before you ask, yes it has happened to me before, but my mates, I felt kinda let him down harshly. And he bought two drinks before hand. :-/

Comedy is more than welcome here, but baiting and outright trolling will result in flagging.

Okay, I think we are good to go.

Avatar image for aronmorales
#2 Posted by Aronmorales (9735 posts) - - Show Bio

I'd say dress as you would to any bar and if you're hit on and don't want to be just let 'em know you're not interested; be polite yet firm.

Avatar image for necrotic_lycanthrope
#3 Posted by Necrotic_Lycanthrope (2501 posts) - - Show Bio

As long as their hot people there for you to spy on, then I have no problem with it.

Avatar image for god_spawn
#4 Edited by God_Spawn (40374 posts) - - Show Bio

I've been in this type of situation before. It's like rejecting anyone. Just tell them you are not interested or you don't go that way but if they wanna talk or hang, cool. At least that is what I have done. If they continue to stress the situation in an aggressive manner, then you can just ask security or someone that works there for help.

Moderator
Avatar image for 7am_waking_up_in_the_morning
#5 Posted by 7am_Waking_Up_In_The_Morning (3948 posts) - - Show Bio

@laflux:

Just have fun. That's what clubs are for. And to be honest, they are much more fun than the typical "expected straight" clubs. (which there is no such thing of, but people expect just straights only)

But the biggest difference with the open LGBT joints is that, you can be as open as you want, and everyone is out there to have fun (no one sitting at the corner by themselves). In the "expected straight clubs", you'll see groups of people just sitting or standing on the sides of each corner just watching the people in the center having fun.

P.S: Raves are fun as well.

Avatar image for 7am_waking_up_in_the_morning
#6 Posted by 7am_Waking_Up_In_The_Morning (3948 posts) - - Show Bio

@laflux:

Oh and if someone of the same sex tries to hit on you, just tell them straight up that you are straight. They won't get mad. They'll move to the next person. lol.

Avatar image for gambit1024
#7 Posted by Gambit1024 (10217 posts) - - Show Bio

From what I understand, gay bars make extremely strong drinks, so you can expect that.

Avatar image for 7am_waking_up_in_the_morning
#8 Posted by 7am_Waking_Up_In_The_Morning (3948 posts) - - Show Bio

@Gambit1024 said:

From what I understand, gay bars make extremely strong drinks, so you can expect that.

Tokyo Tea is very strong. Adios. But that's in EVERY BAR/Club

Avatar image for yourneighborhoodcomicgeek
#9 Posted by YourNeighborhoodComicGeek (21616 posts) - - Show Bio

Wear a shirt that says you are a heterosexual and you are just in the Gay Bar for the kicks.

Like seriously. Do it.

Now.

Avatar image for laflux
#10 Posted by laflux (23256 posts) - - Show Bio

@YourNeighborhoodComicGeek said:

Wear a shirt that says you are a heterosexual and you are just in the Gay Bar for the kicks.

Like seriously. Do it.

Now.

Lolz.

Avatar image for superstay
#11 Edited by superstay (11946 posts) - - Show Bio

@laflux:

IDKY but I laughed so when I read this

As for your question......IDK, I never been around large numbers of gay people (Hope that doesn't sound offensive). lol

d^¡^b

Avatar image for robocopslayert800
#12 Posted by RobocopSlayerT800 (2345 posts) - - Show Bio

go and have fun!!!

Avatar image for god_spawn
#13 Posted by God_Spawn (40374 posts) - - Show Bio

*Waits for comments about people telling you to experimenting with your sexuality.*

Moderator
Avatar image for nick_hero22
#14 Posted by nick_hero22 (8466 posts) - - Show Bio

@god_spawn said:

*Waits for comments about people telling you to experimenting with your sexuality.*

Have you experimented with your sexuality?

Avatar image for earth616
#15 Posted by Earth616 (181 posts) - - Show Bio

This is my 100th post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Avatar image for vance_astro
#16 Posted by vance_astro (89883 posts) - - Show Bio

You're only going for the music, don't lie. 

Moderator
Avatar image for mikethekiller
#17 Posted by mikethekiller (9226 posts) - - Show Bio

@laflux: If you get hit on just say you're straight and that's the end of it.

Avatar image for pikahyper
#18 Posted by pikahyper (16586 posts) - - Show Bio

it's better if you soften the rejection with "I'm flattered but I'm straight, sorry"

Moderator Online
Avatar image for damianwayne
#19 Posted by DamianWayne (159 posts) - - Show Bio

If you get hit on by someone of the same sex, just start talking about comics, they will most likely be gone in thirty seconds. Tops.

Avatar image for glitch_spawn
#20 Posted by Glitch_Spawn (17179 posts) - - Show Bio

@nick_hero22 said:

@god_spawn said:

*Waits for comments about people telling you to experimenting with your sexuality.*

Have you experimented with your sexuality?

Ha ha he was afraid to respond :P

Avatar image for glitch_spawn
#21 Edited by Glitch_Spawn (17179 posts) - - Show Bio

Large groups of gay people are pretty fun so I'd say expect a pretty good time! If you get hit on just politely tell the person you are straight and maybe offer them a drink anyway.

Avatar image for farwind
#22 Posted by Farwind (77 posts) - - Show Bio

Don't worry, just say you're straight and most of us will leave you alone.If they're being aggressive about it, it's within your rights to be an asshole to them.

Most importantly, just don't stress about it. Seriously. Even if you need to be a total ass to drive off someone. We probably had to do the same to him as well at some point(s).

Avatar image for mrdecepticonleader
#23 Posted by mrdecepticonleader (19666 posts) - - Show Bio

What is with this notion about being worried of been hit on? Do you worry about been hit on when you go to other bars?

And if someone is bi who hits on you what is the big deal,if they are bi?

Avatar image for 7am_waking_up_in_the_morning
#24 Posted by 7am_Waking_Up_In_The_Morning (3948 posts) - - Show Bio

Another way to turn them away from you is by taking about the Juggernaut and the religion of Cyttorak.

Talk about Storm and you'll be a magnet for conversation. LOL!

Avatar image for laflux
#25 Posted by laflux (23256 posts) - - Show Bio

@mrdecepticonleader said:

What is with this notion about being worried of been hit on? Do you worry about been hit on when you go to other bars?

And if someone is bi who hits on you what is the big deal,if they are bi?

Meh, I don't consider myself an unattractive guy, and its happened to me before. Maybe worried is too strong a word.

Avatar image for laflux
#26 Posted by laflux (23256 posts) - - Show Bio

@Glitch_Spawn said:

@nick_hero22 said:

@god_spawn said:

*Waits for comments about people telling you to experimenting with your sexuality.*

Have you experimented with your sexuality?

Ha ha he was afraid to respond :P

Well to quote a male comedian, I haven't been in a sexual relationship but I have enjoyed 100% of the Penises I have played with. Slightly off putting jokes aside, I consider myself straight but I am

Extremely Tidy.

Enjoy clothes shopping.

Enjoy Glee.

Enjoy Twilight- much to the ire of some people here.

Wear moisturizing cream to bed on most nights.

Make of this what you will....................

Avatar image for mrdecepticonleader
#27 Posted by mrdecepticonleader (19666 posts) - - Show Bio

@laflux said:

@mrdecepticonleader said:

What is with this notion about being worried of been hit on? Do you worry about been hit on when you go to other bars?

And if someone is bi who hits on you what is the big deal,if they are bi?

Meh, I don't consider myself an unattractive guy, and its happened to me before. Maybe worried is too strong a word.

ok

Avatar image for tdk_1997
#28 Posted by TDK_1997 (17073 posts) - - Show Bio

You should wear a T-Shirt which says that you love boobs or something like that.

Avatar image for god_spawn
#29 Posted by God_Spawn (40374 posts) - - Show Bio

@nick_hero22: Nope.

Moderator
Avatar image for fadetoblackbolt
#30 Posted by FadeToBlackBolt (23390 posts) - - Show Bio

Basic laws of any club-scene. Don't accept drinks from people unless you're willing to offer them something in trade, or they're likely to get rather annoyed. (Granted the "trade" can be something as simple as conversation, though that's hard to do in a club). Drinks are insanely expensive nowadays, so it's always best to keep that in mind.  
 
Otherwise, if someone hits on you, just something casual like "Sorry, but I'm just here with some friends" will generally illicit a more positive response than overly sentimental apologies like "Thank you so much. I'm honoured, but I'm heterosexual. Thank you very much anyway, it's very flattering." 
 
It's a club full of people who are looking for companionship, so, and I don't mean this as a slight against you, getting knocked back will mean that your pursuer will just look for someone else who is interested. 

Avatar image for satyrgod
#31 Posted by satyrgod (2116 posts) - - Show Bio

I'm not so sure about the "thanks but I'm straight" line...it makes you more in demand, more of a challenge, esp. when guys like me are drinking. You might try "I appreciate the thought but you aren't my type". Wear whatever you're comfortable in except tight jeans and white t-shirt (you're a bottom), plain black t-shirt (top), or a t-shirt reading "ass man". And for gods' sakes, no leather; it'll attract us like leeches to a bloodbath.

Avatar image for xanni15
#32 Posted by Xanni15 (6791 posts) - - Show Bio

I've been to a few of them, didn't see the big deal. Bars in general are pretty lame and not places I would like to be.

Avatar image for blood1991
#33 Posted by Blood1991 (8115 posts) - - Show Bio

They're just people. If they hit on you just say your straight or not interested. Or lead them on for free drinks. Whatever works for you.

Avatar image for robocopslayert800
#34 Posted by RobocopSlayerT800 (2345 posts) - - Show Bio

No offence, but I wouldnt of admitted I was going to a Gay Bar. lol

Avatar image for walzo
#35 Posted by Walzo (4365 posts) - - Show Bio

@RobocopSlayerT800 said:

No offence, but I wouldnt of admitted I was going to a Gay Bar. lol

Why not?

Avatar image for robocopslayert800
#36 Posted by RobocopSlayerT800 (2345 posts) - - Show Bio

@Walzo said:

@RobocopSlayerT800 said:

No offence, but I wouldnt of admitted I was going to a Gay Bar. lol

Why not?

Well i'm assuming most people that go to gay bars are gay and most gay people get picked on, bullied and laughed at.

Avatar image for agent9149
#37 Posted by Agent9149 (3519 posts) - - Show Bio

@laflux: have fun, take a drink from a guy, tell him your straight, offer him a drink back; make friends, be nice, he'll you could even dance with a couple fellas, doesn't mean you have to take him home and marry him...just go out and have a good time

Avatar image for laflux
#38 Posted by laflux (23256 posts) - - Show Bio

@satyrgod said:

I'm not so sure about the "thanks but I'm straight" line...it makes you more in demand, more of a challenge, esp. when guys like me are drinking. You might try "I appreciate the thought but you aren't my type". Wear whatever you're comfortable in except tight jeans and white t-shirt (you're a bottom), plain black t-shirt (top), or a t-shirt reading "ass man". And for gods' sakes, no leather; it'll attract us like leeches to a bloodbath.

Man tight chino's are my thing :(

Avatar image for satyrgod
#39 Posted by satyrgod (2116 posts) - - Show Bio

You're English, no? Careful with that accent, you'll have us all after ya. And once they realize that European guys are typically unmutilated, as opposed to the majority of us unfortunate Americans, you'll have 'em drooling; so careful in the men's room.

Avatar image for blood1991
#40 Posted by Blood1991 (8115 posts) - - Show Bio

@7am_Waking_Up_In_The_Morning said:

Another way to turn them away from you is by taking about the Juggernaut and the religion of Cyttorak.

Talk about Storm and you'll be a magnet for conversation. LOL!

Whoa bro straight Storm fan up in here.

Avatar image for innervenom123
#41 Posted by InnerVenom123 (29887 posts) - - Show Bio

Meet me on the dance floor.

I'll be the one with no dignity.

Can't miss me.

Avatar image for laflux
#42 Posted by laflux (23256 posts) - - Show Bio

@InnerVenom123 said:

Meet me on the dance floor.

I'll be the one with no dignity.

Can't miss me.

So your over your divorce with Masterjohn?

Avatar image for innervenom123
#43 Posted by InnerVenom123 (29887 posts) - - Show Bio

@laflux said:

@InnerVenom123 said:

Meet me on the dance floor.

I'll be the one with no dignity.

Can't miss me.

So your over your divorce with Masterjohn?

I broke up with him, not the other way around.

B*tches, man.

Avatar image for yung_ancient_one
#44 Posted by Yung ANcient One (5248 posts) - - Show Bio

@laflux said:

@YourNeighborhoodComicGeek said:

Wear a shirt that says you are a heterosexual and you are just in the Gay Bar for the kicks.

Like seriously. Do it.

Now.

Lolz.

On the Front it says

"I'm STR8"

on the back

"Don't Hate"

(+)

Avatar image for god_spawn
#45 Posted by God_Spawn (40374 posts) - - Show Bio

Where's Andy? We'll have this question figured out in no time.

Moderator
Avatar image for god_spawn
#46 Posted by God_Spawn (40374 posts) - - Show Bio

Btw, don't eat celery.

Moderator
Avatar image for bruxae
#47 Posted by Bruxae (18148 posts) - - Show Bio

If someone hits on you simply tell them you appreciate the intrest but that you arent there to hook up with anyone, I assume that everyone isnt there for sex simply because its a gay bar.

And wear what you usually would, perhaps not overly sexy or suggestive if you arent intrested in alot of attention.

Avatar image for laflux
#48 Posted by laflux (23256 posts) - - Show Bio

Get it. Cause it sounds like Bump. Terrible jokes aside,

I heading out in a couple of hours time, just wanted some final advice lol.

Avatar image for nightwing28710
#49 Edited by Nightwing28710 (160 posts) - - Show Bio

if you want them to go away just start scratching your crotch. works like a charm. :D

Avatar image for laflux
#50 Posted by laflux (23256 posts) - - Show Bio

@Nightwing28710 said:

if you want them to go away just start scratching your crotch. works like a charm. :D

ha